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OverviewThis book seeks to imagine the possibility of a more loving masculinity in a society where structural violence, failures of government and economic inequality underpin much of the violent behaviour that men display. Enriched with personal reflections on his own experiences as a partner, father, psychologist and researcher in the field of men and masculinities, Why Men Hurt Women and Other Reflections on Love, Violence and Masculinity is Kopano Ratele’s meditation on love and violence, and the way these forces shape the emotional lives of boys and men. Blending academic substance and rigour in a readable narrative style, Ratele illuminates the complex nuances of gender, intimacy and power in the context of the human need for love and care. While unsparing in its analysis of men’s inner lives, Ratele lays out a path for addressing the hunger for love in boys and men. He argues that just as the beliefs and practices relating to gender, sexuality and the nature of love are constantly being challenged and revised, so our ideas about masculinity, and men’s and boys’ capacity to show genuine loving care for each other and for women, can evolve. Full Product DetailsAuthor: Kopano RatelePublisher: Wits University Press Imprint: Wits University Press ISBN: 9781776147632ISBN 10: 1776147634 Pages: 312 Publication Date: 01 September 2022 Audience: General/trade , Professional and scholarly , General , Professional & Vocational Format: Paperback Publisher's Status: Active Availability: Not yet available  This item is yet to be released. You can pre-order this item and we will dispatch it to you upon its release. Table of ContentsForeword by Raewyn Connell Part 1: Love 1 Why do women love men? 2 One ear turned inward and the other outward 3 Love needs 4 We can change how we love, but not without changing how we fight 5 Love hunger shows itself in many acts, and violence may be one of them 6 Why there is no love in the Plan 7 I love you, but I wish to hurt you 8 To love is to receive and to give 9 Talking matters 10 Listening carefully is an articulate act of love in action 11 Must love hurt? 12 The world is not yet ready for loving black boys 13 Producing and embodying the loving images we want of ourselves 14 If women stopped caring for men Part 2: Violence 15 ‘I am more scared of them’ 16 Men who speak with fists 17 Violence wears many faces 18 ‘Brothers, check yourselves!’ 19 ‘I have never raped anyone’ is not an achievement 20 Why is there violence where we expect to find love? 21 Really nice guys 22 ‘There was nothing suspicious about him’ 23 They don’t teach about sexual consent at university or at home 24 Jeanne and Emmanuel 25 Is the lesbian an alibi for an untenable model of masculinity? 26 Will we reduce rates of rape of women and children when we cannot face prison rape? Part 3: Masculinity 27 Trying to transform men is not a futile exercise, but it is slow and difficult work 28 A few key ideas to consider when thinking about men and changing masculinity 29 The politician told students you can’t ask for money from somebody who raped you 30 ‘Dad, look at me’ 31 ‘I have never hit a woman’ gets you no loving man award 32 Before death, before conception, in the many in-between moments, then repeat 33 Baldwin was a full man 34 The masculinity of a man who is a boy 35 Mr President, end patriarchy? 36 When work gets in the way of emotional connections 37 Love cannot escape power 38 What’s up with all this attention given to boys? 39 The fact of lovelessness in why men hurt others 40 Inheriting and passing down a loving masculinity Acknowledgements IndexReviewsAuthor InformationKopano Ratele is a South African psychologist and men and masculinities studies scholar. He is known for his work on African-oriented psychology, boys, men, masculinity, fatherhood, identity, culture, sexuality, and violence. He is Professor of Psychology at the University of Stellenbosch and Head of the Stellenbosch Centre for Critical and Creative Thought. Among his previously published books are Liberating Masculinities (2016) and The World Looks Like This From Here: Thoughts on African Psychology (2019). Tab Content 6Author Website:Countries AvailableAll regions |
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