Victimizer or Victim: There Are Only Two Roles in My Mind, and I Don't Want to Be Either

Author:   Dorian Lamarre
Publisher:   Independently Published
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9798274978613


Pages:   76
Publication Date:   17 November 2025
Format:   Paperback
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Victimizer or Victim: There Are Only Two Roles in My Mind, and I Don't Want to Be Either


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You see every interaction as a power struggle. Someone dominates, someone submits. Someone wins, someone loses. And you refuse to be either one. You're terrified of being powerless because you know exactly what that feels like-the constant vigilance, the self-erasure, the way vulnerability becomes a trap. But you're equally afraid of having power because you've seen what it does to people. You've watched power turn into domination, influence into control, strength into cruelty. So you're stuck. Frozen between two roles you hate. Constantly monitoring yourself to avoid being ""too much"" or ""not enough."" Afraid that speaking up makes you an aggressor. Afraid that staying quiet makes you a victim. Unable to set boundaries without feeling cruel. Unable to express needs without feeling demanding. This binary thinking isn't your fault. You learned it from relationships where power really was dangerous. Where there really were only two options. But here's what you haven't seen yet: there's a third way of being with people. A way to have power without abusing it. A way to be vulnerable without being destroyed. A way to influence and be influenced without anyone getting crushed. In this book, you'll discover: Why you see every relationship through the lens of victimizer vs. victim How this binary became wired into your nervous system as a survival mechanism What it costs you to live in constant fear of both power and powerlessness The difference between assertion and aggression, vulnerability and collapse How to recognize when you're in binary thinking and step outside it What mutuality actually looks like in real interactions How to build relationships where power moves instead of staying fixed This isn't about finding perfect balance or monitoring yourself constantly. It's about discovering that connection doesn't require someone to dominate and someone to submit. You don't have to choose between being dangerous and being destroyed. There's a third option you haven't been able to see-not because it doesn't exist, but because it wasn't modeled for you. And you're ready to find it.

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Author:   Dorian Lamarre
Publisher:   Independently Published
Imprint:   Independently Published
Dimensions:   Width: 15.20cm , Height: 0.40cm , Length: 22.90cm
Weight:   0.113kg
ISBN:  

9798274978613


Pages:   76
Publication Date:   17 November 2025
Audience:   General/trade ,  General
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Active
Availability:   Available To Order   Availability explained
We have confirmation that this item is in stock with the supplier. It will be ordered in for you and dispatched immediately.

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