Overview

You've earned your place at the table. So why do you still feel like an impostor? Why do you minimize your wins, overwork to prove your worth, and apologize for wanting more? In Unshrinkable, sport and performance psychologist Dr. Darby Bonomi draws on thirty-five years of treating and coaching hundreds of women to reveal why accomplished women secretly undermine themselves-and how to stop. Through candid personal stories and insights from her work with high-achieving clients, she exposes the hidden patterns that keep capable women playing small: the ""good girl"" conditioning, the fear of ambition, the addiction to perfection. This isn't another self-help platitude about fixing yourself. It's your invitation to stop the self-punishment and give yourself permission to want more-unapologetically. Bonomi shows you how to silence your inner critic, own your ambition, and fully use the power you already have. You are not shrink-to-fit. It's time to become unshrinkable.

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""I just finished Unshrinkable and found myself doing that thing where you underline one line...then the next...then suddenly, you're highlighting the entire page. It's wise, wry, and surprisingly funny in the way only hard-won truths can be. Darby Bonomi has a gift for naming what so many of us feel but rarely say out loud-that even the strongest women can be their own biggest obstacle."" - Kelly McGinnis, Chief Communications Officer, Levi Strauss & Co. ""There are books that hold wisdom, and there are books that hold you. Unshrinkable does both. This book is a powerful guide for anyone navigating self-doubt, transition, or growth, and it shines a light on what it truly means to stand tall in your own life. Every young woman deserves to hear this message: you are enough, and you are unshrinkable."" - Nicole Needham, Compass Founding Member ""Every woman I know has felt pressured to make herself smaller, quieter, less disruptive. The world pays a price when women's impact is lessened. Through Dr. Bonomi's disarming honesty and decades of clinical experience, Unshrinkable is an inspiring, actionable roadmap that reveals why even the strongest women secretly hold themselves back...and how to change those patterns for good."" - Caroline Culbertson, 4x Award Winning Podcast Host and Producer, editor-in-chief at Noelle Floyd ""In today's world of supposed quick fixes espoused by the superficially credentialed, Dr. Bonomi's clear, straightforward, informed insights offer actual paths for owning and living openly strong and satisfying lives."" - Wendy Stern, DMH, FABP ""Unshrinkable is a wake-up call and a deep breath all at once. It's the splash of cold water-the jolt that says, 'Stop playing small. You are stronger than you think.' Darby Bonomi invites us to shake off the stereotypes and self-doubt that have kept us shrinking for far too long. Vulnerable, empowering, and refreshingly practical!"" - Phoebe Rubenstein, Chief of Staff, Hollow Brook Wealth Management, LLC ""Darby Bonomi has an extraordinary gift for helping strong women quiet the inner critic and ride with confidence. This book is a must-read for anyone ready to stop self-sabotage and embrace their full strength."" - Kassy Perry, Founder & CEO, Perry Communications Group ""Unshrinkable is honest, empowering, and beautifully written."" - Shabnam Behzadpour, Design Consultant ""Dr. Darby Bonomi is the mom, big sister, therapist, coach we've needed all along. She combines deep humility with grounded and hard-won confidence to both model and teach how to show up fully in our lives, play big, and bet on ourselves while uplifting one another."" - Ariel Trost, PhD ""Darby Bonomi goes well beyond surface-level tactics and digs deep into the universally human vulnerabilities we all share. If you are looking to get to the root cause of the self-imposed limitations that are holding you back in any arena of life, read on."" - Kim Letter, Attorney ""Unshrinkable shows how looking inward, trusting yourself, and advocating for yourself can help you show up fully and live your most authentic, powerful life. Darby Bonomi has helped me to get out of my own way and reach a level of success and fulfillment that I am beyond grateful for."" - Daphne Foran, Professional Athlete, Co-Owner Foran Performance Horses

Author Information

Darby Bonomi, PhD, is a sport and performance psychologist who has facilitated transformations in hundreds of high-achieving individuals. After two decades as a clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and faculty member at the San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute, she shifted her focus to performance coaching in 2016. She works with competitive equestrians, entrepreneurs, and professionals globally-primarily women determined not to shrink under self-criticism or others' expectations.Dr. Bonomi is an actively competing equestrian herself and has delivered sport psychology clinics nationwide. Her writing has been featured in Practical Horseman, USHJA In Stride, The Plaid Horse, and The Chronicle of the Horse.

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