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*The Mirror We Pretend Not to See* by Max Nabati is a sharp, affectionate, and unflinching exploration of Iranian culture through the lens of its most endearing-and exhausting-contradictions. Written not by an academic or outsider, but by a native ""professional observer,"" this book serves as a field report from the intimate front lines of everyday Iranian life. With razor-sharp wit and profound insight, Nabati decodes the unwritten rules that govern social interactions, from the elaborate ritual of **taarof**-that full-contact dance of polite insistence where refusing an offer is the highest form of respect-to the merciful white lies that preserve dignity and prevent social catastrophe. He examines why Iranians navigate their own bureaucracy like a labyrinth run by relatives, why they revere poets whose works gather dust on shelves, and why they profess undying love for a homeland while quietly dreaming of escape. Structured as a theatrical performance, the book invites readers backstage to witness the grand play of Iranian existence: the opening gambit of taarof, the improvised dialogue of necessary untruths, the hidden scripts of traffic chaos, family dynamics, grief, and even WhatsApp groups. Nabati dissects these patterns not to mock or condemn, but to illuminate the intricate logic born from history, scarcity, pride, and resilience. Humor is the book's guiding methodology-a precise scalpel in a society where direct criticism can be perilous. We laugh to avoid crying, and in the laughter, we finally glimpse ourselves clearly. Some readers will label it cynical, seeing their own reflections and flinching away; others will recognize it as a love letter, penned by someone hopelessly fascinated by the magnificent arrhythmia of Iranian culture. This is an autopsy performed with tenderness: taking apart the exquisite clockwork of traditions, habits, and hypocrisies not to declare it broken, but to understand why it ticks so beautifully, even when out of sync. For Iranians in the homeland or diaspora, it offers cathartic recognition; for outsiders, a witty, humane gateway into a culture rich with paradox. Ultimately, *The Mirror We Pretend Not to See* is more than cultural critique-it's an invitation to self-reflection, reminding us that in pretending not to see the mirror, we miss the chance to truly know ourselves.

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Max (Shahrooz) Nabati is a global citizen and an accomplished author. He has explored many countries, immersed himself in diverse societies, cultures, and natural wonders. These journeys have deeply inspired his creative work, leading him to publish short stories and novels across various genres, with several of his works released over the past decade.

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