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Strategy for Women Who Are Done GuessingModern dating doesn't fail because women don't care enough. It fails because they care without strategy. In The Art of War & Dating, best-selling author and creator of Your Dating UnExpert, Sarah Melland, translates the timeless principles of Sun Tzu's The Art of War into a razor-sharp guide for navigating modern dating with clarity, dignity, and self-command. This is not a book about manipulation, game-playing, or ""winning"" men. It is a strategic manual for women who are done: romanticizing inconsistency, calling anxiety ""chemistry,"" explaining themselves into exhaustion, and staying too long in situations that quietly drain them. Dating, at its core, is decision-making under uncertainty. You are constantly assessing terrain, timing, risk, signals, cost, and outcome. When you ignore those elements, you don't become more loving, you become more exposed. Sun Tzu understood this centuries ago. ""The general who makes many calculations before the battle wins. The general who makes few calculations loses."" - Sun TzuThe Art of War & Dating teaches women how to make those calculations early, before emotional investment becomes sunk cost. What This Book Does DifferentlyThis book does not tell you to: try harder, communicate more, be more patient, soften your standards, and ""give it time."" Instead, it teaches you how to: read patterns instead of promises assess interest through behavior, not words recognize when a situation is already too expensive protect your nervous system before strategy fails exit cleanly without drama, guilt, or over-explanation Each chapter mirrors a principle from The Art of War, reframed for dating, relationships, situationships, and modern app culture including emotional logistics, masculine pursuit, mixed signals, hostile terrain, and the hidden cost of prolonged ambiguity. One of the book's central truths is simple and devastatingly effective: ""All warfare is based on deception."" - Sun TzuPeople perform in dating. They show you who they want to be, not who they are under pressure. This book shows you how to observe without confronting, wait without chasing, and let reality reveal itself without sacrificing your softness or your standards. This Is Not About Becoming ColdIt's About Becoming Clear Strategy does not make you guarded. It makes you free. Women who move through dating with ease aren't harder, they see sooner. They act cleaner. They leave once. This book is for women who want peace, not performance. Clarity, not chaos. Power without cruelty. You do not read The Art of War & Dating to stay in battle mode. You read it so you don't have to fight the wrong wars ever again. Because the most strategic move isn't winning. It's knowing when you're done.

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Sarah Melland is the creator of Your Dating UnExpert, a bold, no-nonsense platform that helps women survive and thrive in the modern dating hellosphere without losing their dignity, intuition, or sense of self.Known for her sharp insight, dark humor, and emotionally honest voice, Sarah has written numerous best-selling books on dating, relationships, sex, and self-reclamation, including The Breakup Band Aid, Red Flag Translator, 1,001 Dating Ideas, The Dating Survival Bible, A Single Girl's Guide to Hilarious Facts You Never Knew About Sex, A Single Girl's Guide to IVF, and A Single Girl's Ultimate Bucket List. Her work dismantles dating myths, decodes manipulative behavior, and gives women the language and permission to trust what they already know.Sarah's writing goes beyond dating mechanics. Through spiritually grounded works such as Practicing Love: A Message of Love, Hope, and Renewal, Practicing Love Journal Edition, Practicing Love Gratitude Journal, and The Unfiltered Woman's Guide to Letting Go, she guides women through healing, self-command, and the quiet power of choosing themselves without guilt or apology. Her work bridges emotional intelligence, spiritual growth, and real-world discernment without sugarcoating or spiritual bypassing.She is also the author of Becoming Her: The Woman Who Remembered Before the World Did and The AI Empire Builder Blueprint, reflecting her unique position at the intersection of creativity, consciousness, and modern digital power. Across all genres, Sarah's work shares one core mission: to help women stop abandoning themselves in the name of love, validation, or survival, and start living with clarity, autonomy, and self-respect.Sarah's voice is often described as the one women wish they'd heard sooner. Equal parts strategist, truth-teller, and older sister who refuses to lie to you. She doesn't teach women how to be chosen. She teaches them how to choose themselves: cleanly, consciously, and without regret. Sun Tzu (c. 6th century BC) was an ancient Chinese military general, strategist, and philosopher revered as the author of The Art of War. Traditionally identified as Sun Wu, he served the State of Wu during the Spring and Autumn period, utilizing unorthodox, strategic approaches to win battles with minimal loss of life.

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