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Surviving the Shock: Emotional First Aid After Custody LossBy Rachel M. Tanner Custody loss doesn't just hurt - it hijacks your nervous system, shatters your identity, and leaves you questioning who you are without your children. If you're a mother who's lost custody, you already know the silence that follows - the kind of pain no one talks about, and too few understand. The legal system may have taken your parenting rights, but it didn't take your motherhood. And it didn't take your right to heal. Surviving the Shock is a trauma-informed, deeply compassionate guide written by a noncustodial mother for other mothers walking the same devastating road. Blending personal truth with neuroscience, somatic psychology, and emotional first aid, this book offers more than comfort - it offers tools, insight, and a way forward. You'll learn: Why this pain feels unbearable - and how your brain and body respond to custody loss as a trauma event How to understand your trauma reactions (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) without shame or judgment The real cost of disenfranchised grief and internalized stigma - and how to begin undoing their damage Grounding tools and nervous system regulation techniques for moments of panic, dissociation, shutdown, or emotional overwhelm Ways to reconnect with your children energetically, ethically, or spiritually - even when contact is limited or cut off How to redefine motherhood on your terms - outside of courtrooms, case files, or visitation schedules What healing actually looks like in the real world, where survival can mean brushing your teeth and not giving up Each chapter combines real-life experience with trauma-informed education - so you're not just reading about what happened to someone else. You're gaining language, validation, and coping strategies for what's happening inside of you. This book is for you if: You're a noncustodial mom navigating the aftermath of a custody battle You've been called ""unfit,"" ""unstable,"" or ""unsafe,"" and now question your own worth You're grieving a child who is still alive - but who feels gone You feel isolated, ashamed, emotionally flooded, or numb You're tired of being misunderstood and ready to reclaim your voice Written by a mother who lived through it - and is still living it - Surviving the Shock doesn't sugarcoat reality. It honors your grief, validates your rage, and helps you rebuild from the wreckage. Whether your custody loss was caused by addiction, domestic violence, legal error, family betrayal, poverty, or any other reason, this book will meet you where you are - and walk with you toward where you want to go. You are still a mother. You are still allowed to heal. And you don't have to do it alone. ➡️ Join the support group at facebook.com/MotherhoodOnHold ➡️ If this book helped you, please consider leaving a review. Your story might be the light that helps another mother keep going.

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