Overview
Every couple has arguments, but what happens when recurring battles begin to feel like full-scale war? Do you retreat in hurt and angry silence, hoping that a spouse who ""just doesn't get it"" will eventually see things your way? Spend the time between skirmishes gathering evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? Whether due to innate personality traits or emotional vulnerabilities, there are some aspects of our behaviour that are difficult to alter. But these differences do not have to get in the way of healthy, happy, and long-lasting romance. This practical guide offers new solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and lots of real-life examples, readers will learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; and how true acceptance can restore health to their relationships.
Full Product Details
Author: Andrew Christensen ,
Brian D. Doss ,
Neil S. Jacobson
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Imprint: Guilford Publications
Edition: New edition
Dimensions:
Width: 15.20cm
, Height: 2.30cm
, Length: 22.90cm
Weight: 0.476kg
ISBN: 9781572305090
ISBN 10: 1572305096
Pages: 332
Publication Date: 25 July 2002
Audience:
General/trade
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General
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Out of Print
Availability: In Print
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Reviews
'One virtue of the book is its utter realism ...[It] offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist.' - Jane Brody, The New York Times 'This book speaks directly to the heart ... Readers will learn how to heal their relationships and create the intimacy they want.' - John Gottman, PhD, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 'Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense.' - Polly Drew, Milwaukee Journal Sentinel 'The most intelligent text available on the topic of romantic relationships, this book will stimulate thought and discussion among graduate students and advanced undergraduates. It is required reading in my own course on social relationships.' - Joseph Kasof, PhD, University of California, Irvine 'This well-researched and well-written book is exactly what quarreling couples need to extricate themselves from tangles of blame and accusation. It is not just a pep talk, but a practical, hands-on guide for all couples with conflicts-which is to say, all couples.' - Carol Tavris, PhD, author of Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion
'One virtue of the book is its utter realism...[lt] offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist.' - Jane Brody, The New York Times 'This book speaks directly to the heart... Readers will learn how to heal their relationships and create the intimacy they want.' - John Gottman, PhD, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 'Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense.' - Polly Drew, Milwaukee Journal Sentinel 'The most intelligent text available on the topic of romantic relationships, this book will stimulate thought and discussion among graduate students and advanced undergraduates. It is required reading in my own course on social relationships.' - Joseph Kasof, PhD, University of California, Irvine 'This well-researched and well-written book is exactly what quarreling couples need to extricate themselves from tangles of blame and accusation. It is not just a pep talk, but a practical, hands-on guide for
'One virtue of the book is its utter realism ...[It] offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist.' - Jane Brody, The New York Times 'This book speaks directly to the heart ... Readers will learn how to heal their relationships and create the intimacy they want.' - John Gottman, PhD, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 'Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense.' - Polly Drew, Milwaukee Journal Sentinel 'The most intelligent text available on the topic of romantic relationships, this book will stimulate thought and discussion among graduate students and advanced undergraduates. It is required reading in my own course on social relationships.' - Joseph Kasof, PhD, University of California, Irvine 'This well-researched and well-written book is exactly what quarreling couples need to extricate themselves from tangles of blame and accusation. It is not just a pep talk, but a practical, hands-on guide for all couples with conflicts-which is to say, all couples.' - Carol Tavris, PhD, author of Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion
Author Information
Andrew Christensen, PhD, is Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Los Angeles. His research, sponsored by the National Institute of Mental Health, examines the effects of couple therapy. He has published widely on couple conflict and therapy. Neil S. Jacobson, PhD, was Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington until his death in 1999. The author or editor of numerous publications, Dr. Jacobson was one of the world's most widely cited family therapists.
