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When recent Harvard grad Helen Zuman moved to Zendik Farm in 1999, she was thrilled to discover that the Zendiks used go-betweens to arrange sexual assignations, or ""dates,"" in cozy shacks just big enough for a double bed and a nightstand. Here, it seemed, she could learn an honest version of the mating dance-and form a union free of ""Deathculture"" lies. No one spoke the truth: Arol, the Farm's matriarch, crushed any love that threatened her hold on her followers' hearts. An intimate look at a transformative cult journey, Mating in Captivity shows how stories can trap us and free us, how miracles rise out of crisis, how coercion feeds on forsaken self-trust.

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How timely, how telling this story of an inexperienced young woman who fell prey to a cult because of the abuse to which she'd been subjected by male strangers. Only within the fold, where there were rules protecting the women, did she feel safe enough to explore her sexuality and learn to love. So she gave them her possessions, her will, her youth. Read Mating in Captivity as a cautionary tale, one I hope will spark a desire to create a better world for our daughters. --Leah Lax, author of Uncovered: How I Left Hasidic Life and Finally Came Home

This entertaining depiction of life in a cult pits the appeal of belonging against the desire for self-determination. An enlightening read. --Julia Scheeres, New York Times best-selling author of Jesus Land If you have joined, left, or wondered about a utopian group, you should read Mating in Captivity. Fascinating, disturbing, and ultimately inspiring, this is a brave, honest book. --Margaret Hollenbach, author of Lost and Found: My Life in a Group Marriage Commune Just as the Zendik community, a cult, pulled Helen Zuman in and held her, her account of her time there will pull you in and hold you. Her clear-eyed observations of her fellow idealists--and of herself--are honest, compelling, and sophisticated. --Daniel Menaker, author ofMy Mistake: A Memoir How timely, how telling this story of an inexperienced young woman who fell prey to a cult because of the abuse to which she'd been subjected by male strangers. Only within the fold, where there were rules protecting the women, did she feel safe enough to explore her sexuality and learn to love. So she gave them her possessions, her will, her youth. Read Mating in Captivity as a cautionary tale, one I hope will spark a desire to create a better world for our daughters. --Leah Lax, author of Uncovered: How I Left Hasidic Life and Finally Came Home Helen Zuman was a believer. She believed in the perfectibility of community, in the ability of young dreamers to transform traditional sexual norms by getting back to the land. That Zendik Farm was ultimately exposed for her as a tyranny built on lies somehow does not destroy the idealism of Zuman's original impulses, as she tells her story in Mating in Captivity. No, she is able to hold up her youthful self alongside her wiser older self, without useless moralizing, and thereby show respect for the young people drawn to this cult, as well as to shed light on the long history of American pastoral communal experiments. She does all this with restraint and wit, and a deft instinct for entertaining incident and character. A page turner, with purpose! --Philip Weiss, author of American Taboo: A Murder in the Peace Corps Zendik Farm has long been both mysterious and intriguing. Helen Zuman has given us her wrenchingly personal and deeply insightful story of her time in this most unusual of communes. Others might see the group and their own experience differently, but few will provide a better-written or more probing account of Zendik. --Timothy Miller, author of The 60s Communes: Hippies and Beyond Like Animal Farm and 1984, Mating in Captivity shows how shared delusion feeds creeping oppression. A keen study of tyranny in microcosm, and the costs of acquiescence. --Ryan Grim, author of This Is Your Country on Drugs: The Secret History of Getting High in America Zuman . . . retains her sense of agency (and humor) as she weighs Zendik's weird creed and power plays against the sense of righteousness and belonging that drew her in. Her whip-smart prose . . . conveys the squalid exuberance of Zendik's blend of idealism and fraud [in this] engrossing and offbeat story of ideological bonds that chafe--and sometimes liberate. --Kirkus Reviews, (starred review) Raw in perspective, this challenging memoir of religious fanaticism never adequately addresses the nagging question: Was Zuman a victim, or did she freely seek the group out because she was looking for the experiences Zendik promised to provide? --Library Journal

How timely, how telling this story of an inexperienced young woman who fell prey to a cult because of the abuse to which she'd been subjected by male strangers. Only within the fold, where there were rules protecting the women, did she feel safe enough to explore her sexuality and learn to love. So she gave them her possessions, her will, her youth. Read Mating in Captivity as a cautionary tale, one I hope will spark a desire to create a better world for our daughters. --Leah Lax, author of Uncovered: How I Left Hasidic Life and Finally Came Home

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Helen Zuman is a tree-hugging dirt worshipper devoted to turning waste into food, and the stinky guck of experience into fertile, fragrant prose. She holds a B.A. in Visual and Environmental Studies from Harvard and a Half-FA in memoir from Hunter College. Raised in Brooklyn, she lives with her husband in Beacon, NY and Black Mountain, NC. For more on life at and after Zendik, visit helenzuman.com.

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