Overview

Through the stories of her clients, research participants and personal reflections, trauma therapist and qualitative researcher, Mel Gentry Bosna, explores the why and how of self-abandonment and consent violations. In The House Of Me is equal parts memoir and manual, and lights a path for readers to more fully discern their inner ""yes, no, and maybe"". This path is explored against the backdrop of family dynamics, trauma and the systems that hijack consent development, namely patriarchy, religious fundamentalism and white supremacy. Despite our best intentions, many of us default into a disembodied consent, harming ourselves and others. The world of survivors is steadily unleashing a rebelliousness that does not just hope but intends greater safety. Many of us have the taste of consent on our lips and are hungry for more, this book will show you how to experience it through a practice of embodied consent.

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"""Mel guides us through, arguably, some of the deepest waters. She allows space for us to confront our own reflections with honesty and calls us into greater integrity while showing us ways she practices doing so herself, lighting each room gently and on purpose, room by room in the house of herself."" -Corrine Shark, Author Slow Burn (Chalice, 2024) ""If you were to ask me who the leading thinker on shame is I would direct you to Brené Brown without blinking. And if you were to ask me who has revolutionized the conversation around accountability and consent I would immediately turn you in the direction of Mel Gentry Bosna. In my opinion these two women are paving new parallel roads on behalf of us all. 

I wholeheartedly see Mel's work and research as containing the potential to shift how humanity engages with one another. She explores pathways that have been ignored or dismissed, third ways that lead to the kind of accountability that invites repair and a return to safety, all while continuing to protect and center the people who have been harmed. We have all brushed up against the rigid societal norms of a ""call-out"" and maybe some of us have noticed that, when attempting that route, we often end up at a mutual dead end. Mel engages with the distinctly different energy of calling-in, of inviting true change and a mouthful of ownership. She clarifies the nuances of consent and invites everyone at her table to consider the ways it has been honored or neglected and how that has impacted us. 

Last year I invited Mel to teach a session on reparative accountability inside my online community and we're all still talking about her ideas, her research, and her invitation to a third way that serves the fierce and tender energy of love. So for the ones who want to evolve and grow and heal inside of community and repair, I cannot recommend Mel's work and writing and teaching enough. I have the upmost reverence and respect for the gift of both her mind and her heart."" -Stephanie Greene, Author, In The Direction Of You & Founder of Wild Soul ""As a Trauma-Informed Book Coach and Editor, I am always looking for material to recommend to writers, creatives, and practitioners healing their story and helping others do the same. In The House of Me is the book on consent that we have all been begging for. Mel brilliantly invites us into her story and those of her clients, challenging our ideas about what consent is and how we can apply it to every arena of our lives. Thank you, thank you, thank you Mel for the book that will be a game changer for us all."" -Megan February, Author, For Women Who Roar"

""Mel guides us through, arguably, some of the deepest waters. She allows space for us to confront our own reflections with honesty and calls us into greater integrity while showing us ways she practices doing so herself, lighting each room gently and on purpose, room by room in the house of herself."" -Corrine Shark, Author Slow Burn (Chalice, 2024) ""If you were to ask me who the leading thinker on shame is I would direct you to Brené Brown without blinking. And if you were to ask me who has revolutionized the conversation around accountability and consent I would immediately turn you in the direction of Mel Gentry Bosna. In my opinion these two women are paving new parallel roads on behalf of us all. 

I wholeheartedly see Mel's work and research as containing the potential to shift how humanity engages with one another. She explores pathways that have been ignored or dismissed, third ways that lead to the kind of accountability that invites repair and a return to safety, all while continuing to protect and center the people who have been harmed. We have all brushed up against the rigid societal norms of a ""call-out"" and maybe some of us have noticed that, when attempting that route, we often end up at a mutual dead end. Mel engages with the distinctly different energy of calling-in, of inviting true change and a mouthful of ownership. She clarifies the nuances of consent and invites everyone at her table to consider the ways it has been honored or neglected and how that has impacted us. 

Last year I invited Mel to teach a session on reparative accountability inside my online community and we're all still talking about her ideas, her research, and her invitation to a third way that serves the fierce and tender energy of love. So for the ones who want to evolve and grow and heal inside of community and repair, I cannot recommend Mel's work and writing and teaching enough. I have the upmost reverence and respect for the gift of both her mind and her heart."" -Stephanie Greene, Author, In The Direction Of You & Founder of Wild Soul ""As a Trauma-Informed Book Coach and Editor, I am always looking for material to recommend to writers, creatives, and practitioners healing their story and helping others do the same. In The House of Me is the book on consent that we have all been begging for. Mel brilliantly invites us into her story and those of her clients, challenging our ideas about what consent is and how we can apply it to every arena of our lives. Thank you, thank you, thank you Mel for the book that will be a game changer for us all."" -Megan February, Author, For Women Who Roar

Author Information

Melodee Gentry Bosna (she/her) has a BS in Sociology and Master of Social Work and is licensed as a clinical social worker in Arizona where she runs a private practice. More commonly known as Mel Bosna by those who've met her, she's passionate about joining people on their reclamation journey and aims to agitate systems of oppression (side-eyeing you capitalism, white supremacy, patriarchy and ableism). Mel identifies as a cis-woman, clinician, writer, mother and most of all, as human. She primarily works with adults impacted by spiritual abuse, sexual trauma, early attachment disruption, betrayal harm and consent violations. She believes in the body's innate wisdom and ability to heal.

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