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You can't miss it: the more you try, the further they pull away. You love them. They pull back. You move closer. They go quiet. If you're with someone dismissive-avoidant, you already know the choreography-and how fast it turns into a hell loop you never agreed to. One night they're warm, present, almost tender. The next day they're ""fine,"" ""busy,"" ""tired,"" emotionally offline. They can say ""I love you,"" then ghost you for two days like they need to reboot. And you adapt. You become the chill partner. You keep it light. You stop bringing up anything that might ""start something."" You learn to want less, ask less, feel less-because the moment you reach for closeness, something in them tightens. The word future lands like an alarm. You've probably read the attachment books. Taken the quizzes. And you're still here-because generic advice doesn't touch what you're living: a partner who genuinely cares, yet treats closeness like a threat the moment it starts to feel real. This book decodes what's actually happening-in them, in you-when closeness triggers retreat. No villains. No romantic distancing. Just two bodies trying to be close. Their system learned early that intimacy means danger. So they deactivate-cold. Logical. Distant. Work, scrolling, silence. Emotional intimacy becomes that software update they keep postponing. Your system does the opposite. The less you get, the more you reach. Inconsistency turns connection into a craving. And when they pull back, it lands in your body like pain: tight chest, racing thoughts, that free-fall feeling. Stop calling yourself too sensitive. The problem is their inconsistency. That's the pursue-withdraw pattern: two threat responses colliding, on repeat. Love is often there. Safety isn't. Inside, you'll get clear on what to do next-practically, in real life: - Decode their shutdowns without excusing them - Stop feeding the cycle in the exact moments it usually spirals - Steady your body before you text, plead, or implode - Speak in a way an avoidant partner can actually hear-and recognize what makes it worse - Know when you're fighting for the relationship - and when you're just bleeding for it - Understand what's really happening when they initiate closeness, then pull away afterward-and how to stop taking it personally - Tell the difference between avoidant attachment, chronic emotional neglect, and emotional abuse Change is possible-but not by calling it a ""style"" and hoping for the best. The loop breaks with accountability, not promises. This book shows you how to stop living on emotional rations: how to make bids for closeness that don't spark a shutdown, how to respond to distance without begging, policing, or pretending you're ""fine,"" and how to build the kind of safety an avoidant partner can actually feel-without sacrificing your own. And it gives you what you've been missing: a way to tell whether your partner has the willingness to grow with you... or whether you've been carrying the relationship alone in the dark. Read this if you're tired of shrinking. If you want real intimacy back-without losing yourself to get it.

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