Allyship Actually: Why it’s ‘We’ and not ‘Me’

Author:   David Barrow ,  Lucy Hornsby
Publisher:   IT Governance Publishing
Edition:   2nd edition
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9781787786264


Pages:   356
Publication Date:   21 May 2026
Recommended Age:   From 18 years
Format:   Paperback
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Allyship Actually: Why it’s ‘We’ and not ‘Me’


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Creating truly inclusive workplaces requires more than policies, statements and good intentions — it demands action, awareness and shared responsibility. Allyship Actually: Why It’s ‘We’ and Not ‘Me’ blends storytelling with practical insight, encouraging readers to reflect on their own behaviours and assumptions, offering a relatable and thought-provoking guide to becoming a more effective ally.   It’s a powerful, story-driven exploration of inclusion, workplace culture and the role we all play in creating equitable environments. Drawing on real-life experiences, the book follows professionals across multiple industries as they navigate male-dominated and discriminatory workplaces, confronting the everyday realities of bias, exclusion, and inequality.   Through the journeys of its central characters, the narrative highlights how meaningful allyship goes beyond good intentions — it requires action, awareness and a willingness to challenge entrenched behaviours and systems. As relationships develop and perspectives shift, the book demonstrates how individuals can support one another to drive both personal growth and organisational change.   Following the journeys of professionals navigating complex, often male-dominated environments, the book uncovers the subtle and overt challenges individuals face — from unconscious bias and unequal opportunities to the impact of workplace behaviours on confidence, progression and performance. Through these experiences, it reveals what allyship really looks like in practice — and why it is critical to building stronger, more effective organisations.   Rather than presenting allyship as a theoretical concept, this book demonstrates how it is lived day to day. It shows how individuals at all levels — from peers and managers to senior leaders — can actively support others, challenge inappropriate behaviours and contribute to a culture where people feel valued, heard and empowered to succeed.   Blending engaging storytelling with practical insight, Allyship Actually encourages readers to reflect on their own behaviours and assumptions, offering clear, relatable examples of how small, consistent actions can drive meaningful change. It also highlights the wider organisational benefits of inclusive cultures, including improved collaboration, better decision-making, stronger performance and enhanced employee wellbeing.   Ideal for professionals, leaders, HR practitioners and anyone committed to fostering equality and inclusion, this book provides both inspiration and guidance. It reinforces a simple but powerful message: lasting progress happens when we move beyond individual intent and work collectively — because real allyship is not about “me”, but “we”.   “An incredibly powerful book!” - Sophie Hussey, director at Lapis Consulting Services Ltd.

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Author:   David Barrow ,  Lucy Hornsby
Publisher:   IT Governance Publishing
Imprint:   IT Governance Publishing
Edition:   2nd edition
ISBN:  

9781787786264


ISBN 10:   1787786269
Pages:   356
Publication Date:   21 May 2026
Recommended Age:   From 18 years
Audience:   General/trade ,  General
Format:   Paperback
Publisher's Status:   Forthcoming
Availability:   Not yet available   Availability explained
This item is yet to be released. You can pre-order this item and we will dispatch it to you upon its release.
Language:   English, English

Table of Contents

Introduction   13 Chapter 1: The central characters  15 Chapter 2: The start of IT  22 Chapter 3: The first job   28 Chapter 4: The job description   36 Chapter 5: The interviews  43 Chapter 6: The other side of the table   52 Chapter 7: The bird in IT  57 Chapter 8: The job offer/rejection   62 Chapter 9: The first day  71 Chapter 10: In da club   75 Chapter 11: Horrible bosses  81 Chapter 12: Tales of real-world allyship   85 Chapter 12: Why so biased?  90 Chapter 14: Horrible bosses 2  102 Chapter 15: Feeling stuck  106 Chapter 16: Handling ‘IT’  111 Chapter 17: B*tch   114 Chapter 18: Are men saying the wrong things?  118 Chapter 19: Are we still experiencing this?  123 Chapter 20: The offsite meeting   127 Chapter 21: Stalker 134 Chapter 22: The Christmas party  144 Chapter 23: Imposter syndrome   156 Chapter 24: Cultural differences  160 Chapter 25: She helps him    168 Chapter 26: I want to quit 175 Chapter 27: Always on; always anxious  180 Chapter 28: Can anyone help?  189 Chapter 29: Enough is enough   195 Chapter 30: The introduction   199 Chapter 31: Self-employed and self-sufficient 203 Chapter 32: Did you go shopping?  207 Chapter 33: Thank you, next 213 Chapter 34: Friendships  217 Chapter 35: 2024 and beyond   223 Chapter 36: The power skills  228 Chapter 37: Let’s write a book  234 Chapter 38: New beginnings  239 Chapter 39: Allyship Actually  242 Chapter 40: Allyship – and why it’s about ‘we’ and not ‘me’  247 Appendix: Through their voices  252 About the authors – who we really are   279 Resources  287

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David Barrow With over 30 years in IT service roles, David transitioned from small businesses to become a respected management consultant for global organisations.   David chairs the British Standards Institute’s IT Service Management committee, developing global standards.  He also contributes to the British Computer Society’s ITSM and ITAM committees.  David is dedicated to advancing Service Management education through his work with the British Standards Institute.   Recently, his focus has broadened to physical health and mental well-being with his “OH SH!T, I’ve got Bowel Cancer” book series.  Passionate about equal opportunities, David mentors for various organisations, co-creates communities and uses his expertise to support and guide future professionals in the technology sector.   Lucy Hornsby With a background in IT, Lucy now leans into the future of work, positioning herself with a diverse portfolio career across business, branding, change and comms. She combines strategic acumen with creative vision and enables businesses and individuals to achieve impactful and lasting connections. Lucy is a qualified coach and mentor, and an experienced trainer, providing guidance and skills for individuals and teams. She classes herself as a modern-day feminist who is passionate about doing the right thing by and for all women. Lucy’s purpose in life is to empower people to reimagine what can be possible. 

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